Kids think they need chocolates, pizza, video games, and own mobile and mobile time but parents just don’t agree. How do you decide whether it’s a want or a need? What is the difference between Needs and Wants? Why do parents say No or Money doesn’t grow on trees? Is your shopping trip with your parents like the Berenstain Bears Get The Gimmies?Money is limited and depends on how much one earns and there are expenses
So let’s start with making a list of things would like to have. My list when I was a kid was something like given below. What is your list like.
- a bicycle
- Teddy Bear
- Dance class
- Board games:
- video games
- Music CD
- Mobile phone
Now let’s try to help Arvind and Tanya in deciding what they need and they should get.
Arvind in crying as he hungry, he says he needs Toy. But what does he need – food or toy?
Tanya wants to play in the snow – She says she needs snowshoes and Hairband. What do you think she should get? Why?
I Want I Need
Kshitij was crying again. He wanted the Ben10 toy from McDonald Happy Meal. He already had two. He wanted the third one. His Mother said No.
Meghna had gone shopping with her mother to West Side. There she saw a new pair of jeans. She started pestering her mother, “Mummy I need these jeans. They are so cool, so rocking. I can wear this to Tanya’s birthday party.” Her mother tried explaining, “You already have so many of them, you don’t need another one.”
Ishaan came running to her father, “Dad I need a sweater, its winter and my old sweater is no longer fitting me.” “Yes dear, we shall buy it when we go shopping this weekend.”
Aryan had gone to watch a movie with his parents. Once the movie got over, he asked his parents, “Mummy, Papa I am hungry, I need to drink CocaCola”. “No”, his mother said, “You don’t need CocaCola, what you need is a glass of water and some food like Dosa. Let’s go to the food court and take something from there.”
In all the above conversations, you saw that the kids are saying “I want”, “I need”. Is there any difference between needs and wants?
So what is Difference between Needs and Wants?
Needs are things that we cannot live without. They are essential for us, such as:
- Place to live
Wants are things that we desire now, at that moment. Right now one wants a new pair of jeans; when one sees a new pencil box, one needs it. There is no limit to our wants. When a want is fulfilled, another one will come up. It is great to have other jeans but one can live without it, just as one can live without things such as:
- That dress like Barbie.
Is Food a Need or a Want
Aryan is hungry, he wants something to drink and eat. We need food to eat and if we do not eat food for long, we’ll become weak.
Why do we need food? Cars are great to travel. We can go far off places. But, the car needs petrol to run. Our body is a machine like a car, it too needs food to run well. If we don’t give petrol to the car, it will not run; if we don’t give food to the body, it will become weak. What if, instead of petrol, we put water in the car, will it run? No, right?
As a human being, we have lots of choices in terms of food. There are different kinds of food, roti, subzi, rice, dal(pulses), eggs, vegetables, cheese, butter, dosa, idli, pasta, noodles, french fries, pizza. While French fries, Maggi is tasty, they are not healthy and do not provide us with the nutrients we need. We need to eat a balanced diet.
What about eating ice cream? Ice creams are so tasty, I love having them. But then, I don’t have to eat it to live. Food is food whether you eat a three-course meal in a five-star restaurant or eat roti and subzi at home.
Cola tastes good. Drinking a Fanta or Pepsi makes us feel good. But we don’t need the soft drink to survive. Water is good. It is said that we should drink at least 8 glasses of water every day. Milk and juice have calcium, vitamins and minerals that our body needs.
So, Aryan’s father was right. Aryan can drink water and then eat Dosa or McDonald burger. Ice cream maybe.
So eating Dosa or McDonald burger is a need but drinking Pepsi is a want.
Are Clothes a need or a want?
Meghna wanted to buy a new pair of jeans and Ishaan, a new sweater. Is there any difference in their request.
We need clothes to cover our bodies, to protect it from heat and rain. We wear clothes according to the season. In summers, we wear bright cotton clothes while in winter we wear woollen clothes.
How many clothes can we wear at one time? Only one dress, right? Meghna has many jeans; one more jeans would fill her cupboard, but even if she does not buy it, that is okay. She can survive.
Ishaan has to have a sweater. If he does not get one, he might fall sick and miss his school.
So Ishaan sweater is a need and Meghna jeans is a want.
Are Toys/video games a Need or Want?
All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy goes a popular saying.
It is important to play as
And Kshitij asking for McDonald toy was a want and not a need.
Why do parents say No or Money doesn’t grow on trees?
Money in the house is limited and there are many things parents have to spend it on. And you have to realise that parents love you and want the best for you.
Child: “Can I have five hundred rupees to go to the cinema?”
Father: “Five hundred rupees?! That’s too expensive! Money doesn’t grow on trees you know!”
Mother: “If you want to buy a new Smartphone, you will need to find a job and save up for it. Money doesn’t grow on trees – you will appreciate something more if you have worked for it!”
News channel “People will vote for those with higher wages and lower taxes, but they must realise that government money doesn’t grow on trees”
Education, skills and career choices decide how much a person is paid. Usually, people with more education and skills earn more money than people with less education and fewer skills. Hence parents often say, “Study well so that you can get a good job”.
The income of a person depends on his/her knowledge, i.e. what he or she has studied and how he is using it
- Did he/she study engineering or he/she studied medicines to become a doctor?
- What talents does the person have and how he or she uses it? For example, Sachin Tendulkar started playing cricket for India when he was only 14 years old.
Can you write about what you want to be when you grow up and find about that job?
- What is the typical day for your favourite job?
- What skills are needed for the job?
- What training, education is required for the job.
Spending Money and Budget
Coming back to Parents earn money through their job or business. They have to think about many expenses. Most of the money is spent on meeting the needs of food, clothes, house, education, transport, helper services. The expenses can be divided into the following categories:
Fixed expenses: Regular expenses which are of the fixed amount such as rent or the maid’s salary.
Variable expenses: These expenses come up regularly, but with varying amounts, for example, electricity bill, money spent on petrol for vehicles.
Incidental expenses: Expenses that arise because of some incident, such as when one falls sick or there is a marriage or birthday party one needs to attend.
Parents have to make sure that they are able to pay for what one needs before using the money for things that one wants. Technically this is called as making a budget. Budgeting involves understanding how much money you earn and spend over a period of time. On basis of importance and urgency, demands can be categorised as important, urgent, Not Urgent and not Important as shown in the table below.
|Important||Urgent and Important-
|Important but not
urgent-Plan to do it
|Not Important||Not Important Urgent but Not
important: Do if there
is spare money
|Not urgent, Not
Can you Help Mrs and Mr Pandit to decide where they should spend?
Mrs and Mr Pandit have the following demands to meet:
1. Purchase a sweater for Mr Pandit father as winter is coming
2. Daughter is asking for a bicycle.
3. Son is demanding Sony PlayStation. He already has XBox
4. They have to attend a cousin’s marriage, next month. Buy a gift for her.
5. Get house painted. They had done painting 2 years ago.
|Sweater for Mr Pandit father|
Money is limited, it just does not grow on trees and there are so many expenses. The idea here is not to scare you or kids but to make you aware that parents have lots of expenses and they are providing for them as best as they can. Money is limited, but there are so many things to spend on. Therefore, one has to spend money wisely. Before we buy a thing, we have to realize whether it is a ‘need’ or a ‘want’.
Game on Needs and Wants
Help on deciding what one needs in different situations
So can you share your story of what you demanded but later realised that it was not that important? Parents can you share how you let children learn about Needs and wants.