Being a parent is not easy. ‘My daddy is the strongest”, said a cute little girl in one advertisement. “My mother is the best” said another one. I am proud of many things in my life but nothing beats being a mother. As Danielle Steel said in her book, Daddy, when you become a father(or mother)
”What you are attempting to undertake, young man, is an awesome burden. A responsibility you can never shirk, never forget, never avoid. You can’t take a day off from being a father. You can’t drop out or change your mind, or decide not to be there. For the next eighteen years, if not longer, that baby would be your responsibility”
We often get caught in raising our superstar, dropping and picking kids to their school, extracurricular activities, exams, in life. These are some of the interesting letters we came across on WhatsApp and Internet.
Letter by Hong Kong TV broadcaster and Child Psychologist
Following is a letter to his daughter from a renowned Hong Kong TV broadcaster and Child Psychologist.
I am writing this to you because of 3 reasons
- A). Life, fortune and mishaps are unpredictable, nobody knows how long he lives.
- B). I am your father, and if I don’t tell you these, no one else will.
- C). Whatever written is my own personal bitter experiences that perhaps could save you a lot of unnecessary heartaches.
Remember the following as you go through life
1. Do not bear a grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother and I.
To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really will be good to you. You have to be careful, don’t hastily regard him as a real friend.
2. No one is indispensable, nothing is in the world that you must possess. Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don’t want you anymore, or when you lose what you wanted the most.
3. Life is short. When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life.
4. Love is nothing but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with time and with one’s mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness. Don’t over exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don’t over exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love.
5. A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life. One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags!
6. I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, neither would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, whether rich or poor.
7. You honour your words, but don’t expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don’t expect people to be good to you. If you don’t understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles.
8. I have bought lotteries for umpteen years, but could never strike any prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There is no free lunch!
9. No matter how much time I have with you, let’s treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life.
Abraham Lincoln letter to his son’s teacher
My son will have to learn I know that all men are not just, all men are not true. But teach him also that for ever scoundrel there is a hero; that for every selfish politician, there is a dedicated leader. Teach him that for every enemy there is a friend.
It will take time, I know; but teach him, if you can, that a dollar earned is far more valuable than five found.
Teach him to learn to lose and also to enjoy winning.
Steer him away from envy, if you can.
Teach him the secret of a quiet laughter. Let him learn early that the bullies are the easiest to tick.
Teach him, if you can, the wonder of books.. but also give him quiet time to ponder over the eternal mystery of birds in the sky, bees in the sun, and flowers on a green hillside.
In school teach him it is far more honourable to fail than to cheat.
Teach him to have faith in his own ideas, even if everyone tells him they are wrong.
Teach him to be gentle with gentle people and tough with the tough.
Try to give my son the strength not to follow the crowd when everyone is getting on the bandwagon.
Teach him to listen to all men but teach him also to filter all he hears on a screen of truth and take only the good that comes through.
Teach him, if you can, how to laugh when he is sad. Teach him there is no shame in tears. Teach him to scoff at cynics and to beware of too much sweetness.
Teach him to sell his brawn and brain to the highest bidders, but never to put a price tag on his heart and soul.
Teach him to close his ears to a howling mob… and to stand and fight if he thinks he’s right.
Treat him gently, but do not cuddle him because only the test of fire makes fine steel.
Let him have the courage to be impatient, let him have the patience to be brave. Teach him always to have sublime faith in himself because then he will always have sublime faith in mankind.
This is a big order, but see what you can do. He is such a fine little fellow, my son.
Letter From a Grandfather
From the video Khat(letter) by Emotional Full.
Welcome to this world.. this is a beautiful and lovely place. And you have been sent here to make this even more beautiful and more amazing place. Who has sent you? Nobody is able to know this till date and probably it is not even important. So please don’t waste your time on such questions.
We all have a limited time here and however we might have it .. it always seems less. There is so much to see, so much to learn, so much to feel and so much to experience in this world so that you don’t have any time to waste. Possibilities are endless, you can become anything, you can do anything, you can change this world … try something new every day, try to learn and understand something new each day and if in doubt related to a work always remembers … it’s always better to regret something after doing it rather then regretting it without doing it because by doing a thing even if you don’t gain anything you will gain experience which is very valuable.
Experience everything but don’t get addicted to anything. Experience will help you in differentiating between right and wrong,it will help you from committing mistakes. Try to escape from making mistakes but don’t be afraid of committing mistakes. Because mistakes are done by those only who do something make mistakes. Take responsibilities of your mistakes and try to rectify them, forgive other people mistakes and give them a chance to rectify it. No one like to commit mistakes, no one misbehaves on purpose.. you don’t know what going in anyone’s life.. nobody knows.
Therefore treat everyone with like the way you treat yourself. be as lenient to other as you are to yourself, respect everyone, trust everyone and most importantly love everyone. Love is very sparse in this world and everyone needs it. You will also need it too don’t hesitate to ask for it, don’t hesitate to show it.
Life is too short to be shy, dance like there is no tomorrow, sing all with your heart, each as much as you can, laugh loudly, and always cry loudly as you do so now on phone. Only your body should grow old not your heart. The day you lose your innocence you lose your life.
Think about the future but don’t worry too much about it. Think about the past but don’t get lost in it. In life there will be both good and bad days, don’t boost too much when days are good and don’t lose hope when days are bad. Don’t give all credit for success to alone and never blame others for your failures. Just keep moving forward keep spreading happiness and always remember, you have been sent here for only one reason to make this world more beautiful and more amazing.
Lots of Love
Your loving Grandfather
Letter On Exam
A school principal in Singapore sent this letter to the parents before exams…
“Dear parents, the exams of your children will start soon. I know you are all really anxious for your child to do well. But please do remember amongst the students who will be sitting for the exams….
There is an artist who doesn’t need to understand math….
There is an entrepreneur who does not care about history or English literature….
There is a musician whose chemistry marks won’t matter….
There is an athlete whose physical fitness is more important than Physics….
If your child gets top marks, that’s great!! But if he/she doesn’t then don’t take away their self-confidence and dignity”
Letters from a Father to His Daughter: Jawaharlal Nehru to Indira Gandhi
We are often taught history by learning the names of the kings, dates of battle etc. But surely history is just not about battle and few persons who became kings and generals. History should tell us of the people of the country, how they lived, what they did and what they thought. It should tell us of their joys and sorrows, of their difficulties and how they overcame them.
Letters from a Father to His Daughter is a collection of 30 letters written by Jawaharlal Nehru, first Prime Minister of Independent India, in 1928 to his daughter Indira Gandhi when she was 10 years old. At the time of the letter’s writing, Nehru was in jail in Allahabad, while Indira was in Mussoorie. With some really great illustrations, it makes a wonderful read not just for kids but also for adults. He just told enough to make her curious, so that she can do her own quest of knowing more about them.
The collection of these letters span over a large range of how the earth was formed, how animal and human life came into existence and how societies entered the fray. Nehruji then also writes about races, faith and beliefs that existed in those times. The letters cover a major portion of human history and the history of India as well.
Here’s an excerpt from the book.
We saw in our last letter that the chief difference between man and the other animals was the intelligence of man. This intelligence made him cleverer and stronger than enormous animals who would otherwise have destroyed him. As man’s intelligence grew, so also grew his power.
To begin with, the man had no special weapons to fight his enemies. He could only throw stones at them. Then he began to make out of stone: axes, spears and many other things, including fine stone needles. We saw many of these stone weapons in the South Kensington Museum and also in the museum in Geneva.
The Ice Age, about which I said something in my last letter, slowly ended and the glaciers disappeared from Central Europe and Asia. As it became warmer, men spread out.
In those days there were no houses or other buildings. People lived in caves. There was no cultivation, that is working in the fields. Men ate fruits and nuts and the animals they killed. They had no bread or rice because they did not grow anything in the fields. They did not know cooking but perhaps they just heated the meat on the big fires they had. They had no cooking vessels or pots and pans.
One thing is very curious. These savage men knew how to draw. Of course, they had no paper or pens or pencils or brushes. They simply had their stone needles and pointed instruments. With these, they scratched or drew animals on the walls of caves. Some of their drawings are quite good but they are almost all profiles. You know that it is easier to draw profiles, and children usually draw in this way. As the caves must have been dark it is probable that they used some kind of simple lamp.
These men that we have described are called Palaeolithic men, or the men of the old Stone Age. That period is called the Stone Age because men made all their tools with stone. They did not know how to use the metals. Today most of your things are made of metals, especially iron. But iron or bronze was not known then, and so stone, which is much more difficult to work with, was used.
Some Quotes from the book
- We have to see what is good in our ways and customs and try to keep it, and whatever is bad, we have to throw it away. If we find anything that is good in other countries, we should certainly take it (p 62).
- To work together is better than to work singly, and to work together for the common good is the best for all (p 65).
- This seems horrible but a man is afraid will do anything (p 72).
- A famous French king once said L’etst c’est moi- “The State, it is I or I am the State.”
- The idea of religion came through the fear of the unknown (p 91).
The original letters written by Nehru were in English, they were translated into Hindi by the Hindi novelist Munshi Premchand under the name Pita Ke Patra Putri Ke Naam. Nehruji was an outstanding writer. His three major works, An Autobiography, Glimpses of World History and the Discovery of India, and this children’s classic show his knowledge. The intellectual rights of the book are with Priyanka Gandhi
45 Life Lessons, written by a 90-year-old
1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short not to enjoy it.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.
5. Don’t buy stuff you don’t need.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for things that matter
10. when it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye… But don’t worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Overprepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words, ‘In five years, will this matter?’
27. Always choose Life.
28. Forgive but don’t forget.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give Time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38 All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you think you need.
42. The best is yet to come…
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.
Someday I’ll Tell my Children by Erma Bombeck
Erma Louise Bombeck was an American humorist who achieved great popularity for her newspaper column that described suburban home life from the mid-1960s until the late 1990s. Bombeck also published 15 books, most of which became bestsellers such as
- Just Wait Until You Have Children of Your Own, Doubleday, 1971. Written with Bil Keane.
- I Lost Everything in the Post-Natal Depression, Doubleday, 1974.
- Motherhood: The Second Oldest Profession, 1983.
- Family — The Ties that Bind … and Gag!, 1987.
Hope you enjoy and tell your children that you love them and share with them what lessons would you want them to learn.